Do you live in a cemetery of tombstones of memories that haunt you? 

Do you live in the valley of the dead of ghosts of exes past?

“And the ghosts of forgotten actions came floating before my sight, And the things that I thought were dead things, were alive with a terrible might. And the vision of all my past life, was an awful thing to face, alone, alone with my conscience, in that strange and terrible place!”

Let’s look for a moment at how we handle the painful memories that often return to us. One way we deal with yesterday is to stage and restage the events of the past in our minds. We meditate on the ugly memory, rehandle each detail until the event is reinforced in our brains.

Dr. Time

We also handle ugly memories by glibly saying, “Just give it time! Time heals all wounds!” Anybody who believes that has never been sick and sat for three hours in a doctor’s waiting room! Memories, like a running sore, can fester and hurt for years undiminished by time.

Go away a little closer

We also try to deal with painful memories by repression. “Go away! No! No! Leave me alone!” We try to shove them down or push them away. But it’s no good. It’s like pushing a cork down in the water. Shove it down here and it pops up there! Psychologists estimate that we spend as much as 50% of our emotional energy trying to repress painful memories. We can’t fully live today because half our power is being used to deal with something that occurred twenty years ago.


Yet another attempt we make at dealing with past hurts is to rationalize and run away. We say things like, “Everybody’s got a skeleton or two in their closet.” And we try to forget by staying busy, being in a crowd, avoiding silence. But the memory is there in our subconscious mind eating away like a cancer. Perhaps that’s why so many need tranquilizers, liquor, sleeping pills and psychiatric appointments to cope.

Repression, give it time, thinking and rethinking about the past, trying to run away– these are all poor attempts we make at dealing with bad memories.

Another way we handle memory is through guilt. We browbeat ourselves, demean ourselves, wallow in guilt. The story usually goes like this. “I was tempted. I gave in. I hate myself!” Such guilt can only be handled in one of two ways. It must be forgiven or it must be punished. If one cannot find forgiveness then he’ll find a way to punish himself mentally or physically.

So how do we heal the past? We ourselves cannot! But Jesus, he is eternal and not bound inside time. He can and DOES heal memories.

Christian Counseling understands the inner workings of depression. Let us help you put these old corpses in your mind to rest permanently. How do we do this? We teach you how to take every thought captive into the obedience of Christ. Then we replace the enemies lies with God’s truth. The bible tells us in

2 Corinthians 10

“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”

Psalm 139:14

“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful,

I know that full well.”

The qualified are called to serve!

Why am I qualified to help you? Because I have been to the seventh circle of hell and back. Ive gone through terrible suffering in many of the areas I have listed above. I know first hand what these issues feel like. And by the grace and mercy of God he delivered me. So call me. You wont have to wait three weeks for a new patient appointment like every other secular therapist in Corpus Christi. If I don’t immediately answer I return phone calls within the hour in between my sessions and you are seen very quickly.